I hear you, mom… 

It’s been a long day…week…month…year…decade…

I know. Been there. I’m writing this post for you during what I think I will someday refer to as my restful season…its Springtime in 2015…for you to read around Valentines Day next year… Or the year after… Or in 50 years of my simple little blog remains beyond my years…

I won’t get mushy or go into a long spiel about what you feel or what I feel or you should feel or what he or you or whoever should or shouldn’t.

My best advice in my still learning but been in this game for quite some time wisdom… just be. Enjoy what is in front of you… don’t expect your moments to look like a reality show or a fairy tale or something from a movie. Don’t expect to have the best story of your significant other did for you on such and such special occasion.

Don’t put that kind of pressure on yourself or on anyone else that you care about. The best part of the story is the part you can’t share. You can’t describe. Who cares if you didn’t go out on Valentine’s Day? I’m not big on crowds and showy things anyway… if you are … no offense … embrace it, enjoy it, and have a blast!  I’d rather have a night out on the town on Tuesday when the streets are quiet but things are still going on that no one else can see.

If it’s just you without the kiddos or if you just loathe some particular holiday for whatever reason (I’ve heard a lot of reasons…), grab a book or catch a movie or something… Work a few extra hours … Take a bath… Hang out with a friend… Go shopping… Or go do something most people won’t do on whatever day it might be. Just be. Be you. Be awesome.

On Valentine’s Day this year, we didn’t even attempt to get a babysitter or go out – we grabbed a heart shaped pizza and pulled out the linens and China. And maybe you can see just a glimpse of our awesome. It lasted less than an hour. But the story in my head and heart will be for always and I hope that the littles will always remember it, too. I can’t tell you that story and I can’t tell you about the little piece of my heart that is not at that table, but blessedly just a phone call away… All I can tell you is to stop for. Just a few minutes and enjoy what is right in front of you…   Much love – XOXO – C